Screw up more. Happy Thanksgiving.

Screwing up is so important. I am thankful for this lesson. I feel like I get a better grasp on this all the time. But if you add the tiniest bit of emotion, all the ground I’ve gained and all the logic I’ve cultivated goes directly out the proverbial window. It is so easy to want the safety and assurance of perfection…especially around the holidays.

The holidays are brutal. More things to do, more traveling, less routine, more spending, more unpredictability and then maybe memories, or reflecting on losses. It is action packed with many of life’s biggest stressors.

As I relentlessly mention, being perfect is not possible, and is not even something to strive for. It is a wound to believe that we must be perfect in order to be valuable or loveable, and so practicing brave acts of screwing up is a healing thing.

Mistakes are an integral part of learning. If we stop making mistakes, then we stop doing things that are new, preferring to stay safe and perfect. I dare say we start to decay and become a vacant polished shell of a person. In the best way, I hope your turkey burns, the gravy has lumps and you are more present and connected. I hope you have enough go wrong that you are able to see what is so right, even just within yourself. Stay vibrant, engaged, messy and thankful my friends. Screw up more.