Bad reputation.

Boundaries get a bad reputation. There are few other things that cause a panicked response from my clients as quickly as talking about boundaries. Boundaries are viewed really negatively.

What is so misunderstood about setting boundaries is that they are the great relationship saver. Boundaries are not about getting someone to agree with you, but rather giving you the space to be healthy enough to be the caring, compassionate person you are.

Let me set the scene. Let’s say you have a relationship where you constantly feel drained. The frustration builds and builds but due to a number of reasons you don’t address it. Eventually that relationship either becomes completely cut off or completely unhealthy.

Now imagine this. The same relationship, but as you recognize what is happening, you express your limits. You can only spend this much time or talk about this specific topic for so long. You get to stay in the relationship, and you don’t sacrifice your health or feel resentment. Seems like the best of both worlds right?